The work place is a breeding ground for anger issues among people. This is due to stress from work, differences with colleagues and clients, misunderstandings and rumors that can cause you to lose your cool at work. If you are a person who is poor in anger management, there will be a lot of negative consequences, such as loss of credibility, bad relations with others and increase in pressure. You will then provide a good opportunity for your competitors to get rid of you.
The source of anger

Below are some situations where you are most likely to lose control over your emotions:
1. Isolated
You feel you are not accepted by your teammates, which leads you to feel frustrated and angry. This will greatly affect your productivity and mood.

2. Picky boss
Your boss is always nit-picking, and you are unable to express your thoughts. You begin to hate your boss, and the relationship suffers.

3. Mediocre boss
You feel life is unfair when you are forced to work under a mediocre boss. You feel angry for all the time, effort and energy wasted due to poor planning and direction from your superior.

4. Lack of promotion
Many people will start developing negative attitude and anger when they are denied from their rightful promotion.

5. Slander
Defamation causes anyone to suffer mentally. The victim’s career suffers a tremendous blow.

Are you a hot tempered person?
1. If you are selfish and egoistic, you will feel that no one is better than you. You feel you should be the one receiving more attention, and your opinions should not be denied. This is because when you expect too much, but do not receive as much as you wish, you feel situations are unfair, and therefore become angry.

2. A perfectionist will always feel anger because no one, including oneself, is able to achieve perfection. This is simply because we do not live in a perfect world.


3. People who are paranoid over everything and constantly argue on every minor issue will be perceived as being extremely annoying.

Experts recommended that for a person to control one’s anger, it is important to learn to find solutions, and to control oneself in order to keep one’s job.

Anger is an emotion, and in many cases you can control it. We are often afraid that anger will control us, so we mistakenly believe that only way to deal with anger is to suppress it. As a result, you do not have an outlet to release your anger, causing it to build up. In the end, you might make regretful decisions because of poor anger management. It is okay to be angry, but that doesn’t mean we have to express it. It is possible to make rational decisions when we are feeling angry.

When you are extremely angry, one way to calm yourself is to consider the importance of your job. If you allow your anger to take over and control you, you might lose your job anytime.

Psychologists believe that humor and anger cannot coexist. Allow humor get rid of the anger you feel. Therefore, whenever you feel angry, take some moments to be silent, and allow humor to work its way into making you feel better. This can be done by reading some funny jokes or watching some comedy.

Forgive when you have been wronged. Although some people might not deserve your forgiveness, forgiving others actually helps you to release anger and have a better psychological health. Indirectly, you gain support from others too. Once you learn to forgive, you will no longer suffer in your own anger and frustration. You will quickly come out stronger and recover faster.

Overcome anger physically and mentally
1. Emotionally: cry
Anger goes away as you cry out your troubles.

2. Psychologically: talk
Talk to a friend, or to yourself, as long as you can express your anger verbally. At the end of the conversation, assure yourself that you will not be overcome by anger.

3. Mentally: meditate
Burn some essential oils, allow your heart to calm down and try to forget all the unpleasant experience. Pay attention to your breathing, allow yourself to relax totally. After some time, you will be calm enough to analyze problems objectively.

4. Physiologically - vent it out
You can punch a pillow or find a punching bag, as long as it allows you to release the pent up anger. A more active approach is to exercise and go for fitness classes. Run on the treadmill for 30 minutes, imagine losing the anger with every step you take.


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